It's the same in any lingo

בַּת-בָּבֶל, הַשְּׁדוּדָה: אַשְׁרֵי שֶׁיְשַׁלֶּם-לָךְ-- אֶת-גְּמוּלֵךְ, שֶׁגָּמַלְתּ לָנוּ
אַשְׁרֵי שֶׁיֹּאחֵז וְנִפֵּץ אֶת-עֹלָלַיִךְ-- אֶל-הַסָּלַע


How can one be compelled to accept slavery? I simply refuse to do the master's bidding. He may torture me, break my bones to atoms and even kill me. He will then have my dead body, not my obedience. Ultimately, therefore, it is I who am the victor and not he, for he has failed in getting me to do what he wanted done. ~ Mahatma Gandhi
If I am not for myself, who will be for me? If I am not for others, what am I? If not now, when? ~ Rav Hillel, Pirke Avot

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18 December 2008

ENOUGH IS ENOUGH! Domestic Violence Hits the Pumasphere with UPDATE

I have received word that Betty Jean's daughter Louisa has suffered a brain hemhorrage.  She asks for our prayers now.            רפואה   שלמה

For those of you who haven't heard, our Betty Jean Kling's daughter is in the hospital in critical condition after her being shot by her former brother-in-law, George Hartwig.  This is the most updated story I could find.

A series of PUMA actions are being put in place.  What we need today is calls and faxes to be sent to the office of the Judge who will be arraigning Hartwig.  He is to be arraigned at 1:30PM today before Judge Harry Carroll.

Judge Carroll can be reached at:
201-527-2360
Fax: 201-752-4109

Please contact him and urge him to please take any action to prevent Hartwig from ending up back on the street.  This is a man with an extensive history of domestic violence.  He will commit more acts of violence if allowed to go free, and I do not doubt that Betty Jean and her family would be endangered by his release.

It is obvious from Hartwig's rap sheet that there was ample opportunity to stop this tragedy from taking place.  There were restraining orders, and a history of violence and criminal acts that somehow were ignored (I will reserve judgement on Bergen County judges, police, and sheriffs regarding their prioritization of cases of domestic violence until I have more facts on this case and others, but clearly parties involved dropped the ball on down the line on this clown for this to have taken place).  At this time we are not able to pinpoint where these breakdowns in the system took place.  We will be working with local law enforcement and domestic violence prevention groups to ascertain exactly where failures took place, who needs to be held accountable, and what steps must be taken to prevent this from happening to another innocent woman.

Violence committed against women by current and former domestic partners is widespread.  It's time that we put a stop to this once and for all.  

Here are the stats, as provided by endabuse.org


Estimates range from 960,000 incidents of violence against a current or former spouse, boyfriend, or girlfriend per year 1 to three million women who are physically abused by their husband or boyfriend per year. 2 

• Around the world, at least one in every three women has been beaten, coerced into sex or otherwise abused during her lifetime. 3

 • Nearly one-third of American women (31 percent) report being physically or sexually abused by a husband or boyfriend at some point in their lives, according to a 1998 Commonwealth Fund survey. 4 

• Nearly 25 percent of American women report being raped and/or physically assaulted by a current or former spouse, cohabiting partner, or date at some time in their lifetime, according to the National Violence Against Women Survey, conducted from November 1995 to May 1996. 5 

• Thirty percent of Americans say they know a woman who has been physically abused by her husband or boyfriend in the past year. 6 

• In the year 2001, more than half a million American women (588,490 women) were victims of nonfatal violence committed by an intimate partner. 7 

• Intimate partner violence is primarily a crime against women. In 2001, women accounted for 85 percent of the victims of intimate partner violence (588,490 total) and men accounted for approximately 15 percent of the victims (103,220 total). 8 

• While women are less likely than men to be victims of violent crimes overall, women are five to eight times more likely than men to be victimized by an intimate partner. 9 

• In 2001, intimate partner violence made up 20 percent of violent crime against women. The same year, intimate partners committed three percent of all violent crime against men. 10 

• Women of all races are about equally vulnerable to violence by an intimate. 11

 • Male violence against women does much more damage than female violence against men; women are much more likely to be injured than men. 12 

• The most rapid growth in domestic relations caseloads is occurring in domestic violence filings. Between 1993 and 1995, 18 of 32 states with three year filing figures reported an increase of 20 percent or more. 13 

• Women are seven to 14 times more likely than men to report suffering severe physical assaults from an intimate partner. 14 

• The health-related costs of rape, physical assault, stalking, and homicide by intimate partners exceed five point eight billion dollars each year (CDC study).

 Domestic Homicides:

• On average, more than three women are murdered by their husbands or boyfriends in this country every day. In 2000, 1,247 women were killed by an intimate partner. The same year, 440 men were killed by an intimate partner. 15 

• Women are much more likely than men to be killed by an intimate partner. In 2000, intimate partner homicides accounted for 33.5 percent of the murders of women and less than four percent of the murders of men. 16 

Health Issues:

• About half of all female victims of intimate violence report an injury of some type, and about 20 percent of them seek medical assistance. 17 

• Thirty-seven percent of women who sought treatment in emergency rooms for violence-related injuries in 1994 were injured by a current or former spouse, boyfriend or girlfriend. 18 

Domestic Violence and Youth:

• Approximately one in five female high school students reports being physically and/or sexually abused by a dating partner. 19 

• Eight percent of high school age girls said "yes" when asked if "a boyfriend or date has ever forced sex against your will." 20 

• Forty percent of girls age 14 to 17 report knowing someone their age who has been hit or beaten by a boyfriend. 21 

• During the 1996-1997 school year, there were an estimated 4,000 incidents of rape or other types of sexual assault in public schools across the country. 22

 Domestic Violence and Children:

• In a national survey of more than 6,000 American families, 50 percent of the men who frequently assaulted their wives also frequently abused their children. 23 

• Slightly more than half of female victims of intimate violence live in households with children under age twelve. 24 

• Studies suggest that between three point three and ten million children witness some form ofdomestic violence annually. 25 

Rape:

• Three in four women (76 percent) who reported they had been raped and/or physically assaulted since age 18 said that a current or former husband, cohabiting partner, or date committed the assault. 26

 • One in five (21 percent) women reported she had been raped or physically or sexually assaulted in her lifetime. 27

• Nearly one-fifth of women (18 percent) reported experiencing a completed or attempted rape at some time in their lives; one in 33 men (three percent) reported experiencing a completed or attempted rape at some time in their lives. 28 

• In 2000, 48 percent of the rapes/sexual assaults committed against people age twelve and over were reported to the police. 29 

• In 2001, 41,740 women were victims of rape/sexual assault committed by an intimate partner. 30 

• Rapes/sexual assaults committed by strangers are more likely to be reported to the police than rapes/sexual assaults committed by "non-strangers," including intimate partners, other relatives and friends or acquaintances. Between 1992 and 2000, 41 percent of the rapes/sexual assaults committed by strangers were reported to the police. During the same time period, 24 percent of the rapes/sexual assaults committed by an intimate were reported. 31 

Stalking:

• Seventy-eight percent of stalking victims are women. Women are significantly more likely than men (60 percent and 30 percent, respectively) to be stalked by intimate partners. 32 

• Eighty percent of women who are stalked by former husbands are physically assaulted by that partner and 30 percent are sexually assaulted by that partner. 33 


Notes:
1 U.S. Department of Justice, Violence by Intimates: Analysis of Data on Crimes by Current or Former Spouses, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends, March 1998.
 2 The Commonwealth Fund, Health Concerns Across a Woman’s Lifespan: 1998 Survey of Women’s Health, May 1999. 
3 Heise, L., Ellsberg, M. and Gottemoeller, M. Ending Violence Against Women. Population Reports, Series L, No. 11., December 1999.
 4 The Commonwealth Fund, Health Concerns Across a Woman’s Lifespan: 1998 Survey of Women’s Health, May 1999.
 5 The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention and The National Institute of Justice, Extent, Nature, and Consequences of Intimate Partner Violence, July 2000. 
6 Lieberman Research Inc., Tracking Survey conducted for The Advertising Council and the Family Violence Prevention Fund, July – October 1996. 
7 Bureau of Justice Statistics Crime Data Brief, Intimate Partner Violence, 1993-2001, February 2003. 
8 Bureau of Justice Statistics Crime Data Brief, Intimate Partner Violence, 1993-2001, February 2003. 
9 U.S. Department of Justice, Violence by Intimates: Analysis of Data on Crimes by Current or Former Spouses, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends, March 1998. 
10 Bureau of Justice Statistics Crime Data Brief, Intimate Partner Violence, 1993-2001, February 2003. 
11 Bureau of Justice Statistics, Violence Against Women: Estimates from the Redesigned Survey, August 1995. 
12 Murray A. Straus and Richard J. Gelles, Physical Violence in American Families, 1990. 
13 Examining the Work of State Courts, 1995: A National Perspective from the Court Statistics Project. National Center for the State Courts, 1996.
 14 National Institute of Justice and Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, Prevalence, Incidence, and Consequences ofViolence Against Women: Findings from the National Violence Against Women Survey, November 1998. 
15 Bureau of Justice Statistics Crime Data Brief, Intimate Partner Violence, 1993-2001, February 2003. 
16 Bureau of Justice Statistics Crime Data Brief, Intimate Partner Violence, 1993-2001, February 2003. 
17 National Crime Victimization Survey, 1992-96; Study of Injured Victims of Violence, 1994. 18 U.S. Department of Justice, Violence?Related Injuries Treated in Hospital Emergency Departments, August 1997. 
19 Jay G. Silverman, PhD; Anita Raj, PhD; Lorelei A. Mucci, MPH; and Jeanne E. Hathaway, MD, MPH, "Dating Violence Against Adolescent Girls and Associated Substance Use, Unhealthy Weight Control, Sexual Risk Behavior, Pregnancy, and Suicidality," Journal of the American Medical Association, Vol. 286, No. 5, 2001. 20 The Commonwealth Fund Survey of the Health of Adolescent Girls, November 1997.
21 Children Now/Kaiser Permanente poll, December 1995. 
22 U.S. Department of Education, Violence and Discipline Problems in U.S. Public Schools: 1996-1997. 
23 Strauss, Murray A, Gelles, Richard J., and Smith, Christine. 1990. Physical Violence in American Families; Risk Factors and Adaptations to Violence in 8,145 Families. New Brunswick: Transaction Publishers. 
24 U.S. Department of Justice, Violence by Intimates: Analysis of Data on Crimes by Current or Former Spouses, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends, March 1998.
 25 Carlson, Bonnie E. (1984). Children's observations of interpersonal violence. Pp. 147-167 in A.R. Roberts (Ed.) Batteredwomen and their families (pp. 147-167). NY: Springer. Straus, M.A. (1992). Children as witnesses to marital violence: A risk factor for lifelong problems among a nationally representative sample of American men and women. Report of the Twenty-Third Ross Roundtable. Columbus, OH: Ross Laboratories. 
26 U.S. Department of Justice, Prevalence, Incidence, and Consequences of Violence Against Women: Findings from the National Violence Against Women Survey, November 1998. 
27 The Commonwealth Fund, Health Concerns Across a Woman’s Lifespan: 1998 Survey of Women’s Health, May 1999. 
28 National Institute of Justice and Centers for Disease Control and Prevention,, Prevalence, Incidence, and Consequences ofViolence Against Women: Findings from the National Violence Against Women Survey, November 1998. 
29 Bureau of Justice Statistics Special Report, Reporting Crime to the Police, 1992-2000, March 2003. 
30 Bureau of Justice Statistics Crime Data Brief, Intimate Partner Violence, 1993-2001, February 2003. 
31 Bureau of Justice Statistics Special Report, Reporting Crime to the Police, 1992-2000, March 2003. 
32 Center for Policy Research, Stalking in America, July 1997. 
33 Center for Policy Research, Stalking in America, July 1997. Home Office 383 Rhode Island Street, Suite 304 San Francisco, CA 94103-5133 P 415.252.8900 F 415.252.8991 Washington Office 1522 K Street, NWSuite 550 Washington, DC 20005-1202 P 202.682.1212 F 202.682.4662 Boston Office 67 Newbury Street Mezzanine Level Boston, MA 02116 P 617.262.5900 F 617.262.5901 General Information E info@endabuse.org TTY 800.595.4TTYOrder MaterialsP 415.252.8089 www.endabuse.org

1 comment:

Anonymous said...

Back in college, I was sexually assaulted by my friend's boyfriend, in the house my friend and I lived in, when he was supposed to be upstairs with her. I have firsthand knowledge that sometimes guys will think that their actions are invited and permissible, when they are not.